I approach courting the same way I do (did) in real life. I get to know everyone, because that's a part of the game, but find that I like being around one person better and giving her gifts to make her happy. Then one day she flirts with me, and it goes from there. It's so much fun it's almost depressing to get married and have it come to an end, though marriage is nice, too. Out of 5 saves, I've married Maru four times. This last time it has been Leah. I've had other villagers flirt with me but I wasn't into it, so that was that. That matches who I am in real life. Only once have I had three women fighting for me, and I didn't like it a bit. I hate being the cause of pain. So I've never even considered playing the game like some do, by romancing everyone at once or a different one each save.