I relate to him quite a bit due to his depressive nature and tendency to push others away; he also reminds me a LOT of my real life husband. I love his story arc in the game and absolutely melted the first time I saw his
cut scene. I think it's so sweet that your farmer inspires him to turn his life around and to see that there's still good in the world, despite the myriad of terrible things. Having said all that, I have never married Shane in the game, but if Elliot didn't exist I would, because as stated above, the selection of "older bachelors" is slim and Harvey is too dull for my taste.