SoftViceMaster
Farmhand
I don't know if this is the right thread to post this, but I've been asking everywhere and I'm running out of options.
Long story short, I have 6 months to find a job or I'll be kicked out. Problem is, I am disabled so my best options are any remote/at home online jobs. And most either have a very low acceptance rate, it's a complete scam, or the application process is so confusing to me that I just can't figure it out (faulty sites and all that). I have so far only gotten ONE referral, thanks to a kind person on TikTok who helped me...but I still have the other issues, and the job they referred me to also has a low acceptance rate.
I know that I have 6 months, but still. I feel like I have to get a job right now, or I'm f**ked. I live in a s**thole of a town, it is 90% heavy lifting and jobs that can't pay for employees regardless. And with my disabilities, I have to get a job that allows me to sit while having little interaction with people. And I can't get a job outside of my area, because any of the actual good ones are all so far away that I'd never find a ride back home unless it was the local bus (which has a very strict schedule so if I miss it then I'm f**ked). And I am lucky my brother is giving me 6 months, but I don't know if I'll find anything by the deadline. I'm literally mortified, I don't know what to do about this.
[ UPDATE #1 ]
I forgot to add this in before, but yes I have tried applying for disability already. I have been denied every single time I tried, despite having so much proof of my disabilities I am always told I am 'too young' to be disabled or my brother simply makes too much from his job for me to qualify. And I have tried applying online for it, but they don't offer it online in my state and I'm just scared I'll run out of time before I get approved or I'll just be outright denied again. I am genuinely scared, I hate this and I hate being disabled because it's just ruining everything. I wish I had someone to guide me, instead of having to 'be an adult' and do it all on my own. Because doing it on my own hasn't helped s**t.
[ UPDATE #2 ]
To make this easier (and to make sure I don't get the same questions more than a couple times) I'm just going to post my replies to everyone's questions right here. That way, I hope that I can actually get the answers I'm looking for without having to repeat myself multiple times (nothing against any of 'yall I just went through this same issue on Gaia Online and I wanna keep it as clean as possible).
This response was to (( LRangerR )):
This response was to (( stardew_luv )):
This response was to (( Giddy )) on Bell Tree Forums:
This response was to (( Chris )) on Bell Tree Forums:
Long story short, I have 6 months to find a job or I'll be kicked out. Problem is, I am disabled so my best options are any remote/at home online jobs. And most either have a very low acceptance rate, it's a complete scam, or the application process is so confusing to me that I just can't figure it out (faulty sites and all that). I have so far only gotten ONE referral, thanks to a kind person on TikTok who helped me...but I still have the other issues, and the job they referred me to also has a low acceptance rate.
I know that I have 6 months, but still. I feel like I have to get a job right now, or I'm f**ked. I live in a s**thole of a town, it is 90% heavy lifting and jobs that can't pay for employees regardless. And with my disabilities, I have to get a job that allows me to sit while having little interaction with people. And I can't get a job outside of my area, because any of the actual good ones are all so far away that I'd never find a ride back home unless it was the local bus (which has a very strict schedule so if I miss it then I'm f**ked). And I am lucky my brother is giving me 6 months, but I don't know if I'll find anything by the deadline. I'm literally mortified, I don't know what to do about this.
[ UPDATE #1 ]
I forgot to add this in before, but yes I have tried applying for disability already. I have been denied every single time I tried, despite having so much proof of my disabilities I am always told I am 'too young' to be disabled or my brother simply makes too much from his job for me to qualify. And I have tried applying online for it, but they don't offer it online in my state and I'm just scared I'll run out of time before I get approved or I'll just be outright denied again. I am genuinely scared, I hate this and I hate being disabled because it's just ruining everything. I wish I had someone to guide me, instead of having to 'be an adult' and do it all on my own. Because doing it on my own hasn't helped s**t.
[ UPDATE #2 ]
To make this easier (and to make sure I don't get the same questions more than a couple times) I'm just going to post my replies to everyone's questions right here. That way, I hope that I can actually get the answers I'm looking for without having to repeat myself multiple times (nothing against any of 'yall I just went through this same issue on Gaia Online and I wanna keep it as clean as possible).
This response was to (( LRangerR )):
No problem 
It's a bit to talk about, so I'll break it into two:
(Mental) ADHD, Major Depression, Anxiety, BPD, PTSD
(Physical) CHF, Type 2 Diabetes
(these are the ones I've been diagnosed with)
I used to just have the mental stuff, but ever since I got covid in 2022 my physical health has been downhill. I actually almost died, and my doctor fully believes that Covid set it all off (Type 2 is common for those who get covid plus I was already susceptible to that and getting CHF). Despite all of this, I have been constantly denied for disability solely because of my age and the fact my brother makes 'too much' at his job. And I have tried to not do it as a 'joint household', still denied.
It's a bit to talk about, so I'll break it into two:
(Mental) ADHD, Major Depression, Anxiety, BPD, PTSD
(Physical) CHF, Type 2 Diabetes
(these are the ones I've been diagnosed with)
I used to just have the mental stuff, but ever since I got covid in 2022 my physical health has been downhill. I actually almost died, and my doctor fully believes that Covid set it all off (Type 2 is common for those who get covid plus I was already susceptible to that and getting CHF). Despite all of this, I have been constantly denied for disability solely because of my age and the fact my brother makes 'too much' at his job. And I have tried to not do it as a 'joint household', still denied.
This response was to (( stardew_luv )):
The US sucks, nowadays they're trying to further diminish the help people get when they are disabled/sick while saying 'no one wants to work'. I honestly wish I wasn't constantly denied any of this, literally my state is one of the few where it's supposed to be 'easier' and yet not once have I been accepted since I was 16 (any time I was it's solely the benefits side and they always tried just getting me into some kind of job even after I proved I had disabilities - even with the literal chronic heart condition that could kill me any day now, I still have never gotten approved). And I know that I can try to plead my case with whomever the person who's been denying my applications for disability is, but I don't wanna do it on my own and at this point I feel like I can't due to my disabilities getting in the way. I am not that smart, I'd fumble my case so badly on my own that I'd be laughed out of the hearing almost immediately. In fact, I know that I've needed help writing every single application because (1) I have very bad memory and (2) I don't understand what the questions are often asking unless it's explained to me in detail. And yet, no one sees an issue with me at all even after all the evidence of me being mentally (and now physically) disabled. Even now, I know that I won't remember much of this thread later if at all because my brain goes through so much it forgets things so I don't get overwhelmed and have a meltdown.
And you know what I really hate? I could've been approved so much sooner, if my s**tty landlord had sent in their paperwork all those years ago. I'd be on disability by now, but no they had to be an old a**hole and say 'just go get a job'. I was 18 at the time, and I was trying to get a job but I knew it'd take time so I went for disability first - if they would've sent in their part of the paperwork, we wouldn't have been penniless for the next 3-4 years and they would've at least gotten partial rent money. But NO, they saw me as 'lazy' and 'entitled' for wanting to get on disability instead.
...sorry for the rant there, I just had to get it out before my brain decides to throw it away in the 'Forget Me' bin.
And you know what I really hate? I could've been approved so much sooner, if my s**tty landlord had sent in their paperwork all those years ago. I'd be on disability by now, but no they had to be an old a**hole and say 'just go get a job'. I was 18 at the time, and I was trying to get a job but I knew it'd take time so I went for disability first - if they would've sent in their part of the paperwork, we wouldn't have been penniless for the next 3-4 years and they would've at least gotten partial rent money. But NO, they saw me as 'lazy' and 'entitled' for wanting to get on disability instead.
...sorry for the rant there, I just had to get it out before my brain decides to throw it away in the 'Forget Me' bin.
This response was to (( Giddy )) on Bell Tree Forums:
I do have my documents, been saving them as best I can since the last time I saw my therapist. But I've shown everyone numerous times, even gave them photo copies several times over, and it still hasn't helped at all (I actually lost my documents last year because the folder got soaked and my brother threw them all out by 'accident - i.e. without my permission or informing me until I asked where they were). The closest I got was with my last doctor, they got my application seen in a month rather than six and it still got denied outright. I still fully believe I'm denied because I'm under 30, I am afab, and I have no work experience or highschool degree. My mom had the exact same issues I do right now health-wise, and they never believed her - she was 45 when she passed, and they could 'never figure out' why she was so sick or how she exactly died despite having the documents showing her health was hanging on by a threat.
They already have that down in my records, even said that I most likely (like 90% sure) that I need a caretaker to help me with just my mental disabilities alone. And I was so close to getting one...until I was denied disability, and it was too long since I last talked to my caseworker at the time so that was taken away from me too. So my doctor knows full well that I am not mentally stable enough to care for myself, but their word/guidance wasn't enough to push me through. After that, I just gave up. That time was the closest I ever got to getting my goal, and it crushed me so badly I 100% believe it made my mental health even worse than before.
I use OneTab on my laptop to keep track of all those jobs specifically (mostly so I don't forget but also to show proof), at the moment I only have two because the rest were either scams or the sites they led me to were so confusing I just gave up trying applying to that job. Currently, I've applied to two AI writing jobs - one is for subtitle writing, and the other is algorithm learning. The latter was a reference that a kind soul on TikTok gave me, but for both they have a very low acceptance rate and I have to wait for an email from either to see if I was accepted or not (they don't send an email if I was denied). These are the kinds of jobs I can realistically do, and it's still so hard and I'm scared that I will never get accepted for these kinds of jobs at all.
Are you asking why my brother isn't 'helping' me? Because if you are, I can explain his reasoning for it - he just doesn't want to waste more energy on me. Not only is he autistic, but he has his night job at the factory and his partner only comes on the weekends. And I will admit, I am not the easiest to be around...my issues really get in the way of everything, I have a hard time keeping up chores and I always complain or say something depressing/morbid. Plus, I believe I am some form of hypochondriac (I get so easily paranoid and have a 'fear of failure' type phobia that is so ingrained into me from my past trauma that it's how I deal with stress). I do understand he is helping me so much already (he pays for my food and keeps me living where I do now at least for the next six months), but now everyone is making me feel like I'm some narcissist who is 'using' my brother to get what I want. And it hurts, to hear everyone say I am being 'manipulative' when in reality they know I am mentally/physically disabled and need help.
I know, it really sucks. And the thing is, it really started with my s**ty landlord. The old a**hole wanted me to 'get a job', so they didn't send in their part of the paperwork and that caused us (at the time it was just my mom and I) to have no money for almost 3-4 years. It was h*ll, and to this day that old idiot still wants me to 'get a job' - but they get paid by my brother, so they don't say s**t to me or him anymore.
I really wish I just had someone here to help physically guide me, I have tried saying for years that I need that kind of help but no one understands or even cares enough to give me that. Yeah, I'm an adult. But I'm still mentally disabled, and I wish people didn't just outright think I'm lying 'for attention' or just laugh at me and say I am 'definitely not disabled' simply because I'm still walking and breathing/talking. And now I'm just gonna cry the rest of the night, this all brought up a lot of bad memories for me.
They already have that down in my records, even said that I most likely (like 90% sure) that I need a caretaker to help me with just my mental disabilities alone. And I was so close to getting one...until I was denied disability, and it was too long since I last talked to my caseworker at the time so that was taken away from me too. So my doctor knows full well that I am not mentally stable enough to care for myself, but their word/guidance wasn't enough to push me through. After that, I just gave up. That time was the closest I ever got to getting my goal, and it crushed me so badly I 100% believe it made my mental health even worse than before.
I use OneTab on my laptop to keep track of all those jobs specifically (mostly so I don't forget but also to show proof), at the moment I only have two because the rest were either scams or the sites they led me to were so confusing I just gave up trying applying to that job. Currently, I've applied to two AI writing jobs - one is for subtitle writing, and the other is algorithm learning. The latter was a reference that a kind soul on TikTok gave me, but for both they have a very low acceptance rate and I have to wait for an email from either to see if I was accepted or not (they don't send an email if I was denied). These are the kinds of jobs I can realistically do, and it's still so hard and I'm scared that I will never get accepted for these kinds of jobs at all.
Are you asking why my brother isn't 'helping' me? Because if you are, I can explain his reasoning for it - he just doesn't want to waste more energy on me. Not only is he autistic, but he has his night job at the factory and his partner only comes on the weekends. And I will admit, I am not the easiest to be around...my issues really get in the way of everything, I have a hard time keeping up chores and I always complain or say something depressing/morbid. Plus, I believe I am some form of hypochondriac (I get so easily paranoid and have a 'fear of failure' type phobia that is so ingrained into me from my past trauma that it's how I deal with stress). I do understand he is helping me so much already (he pays for my food and keeps me living where I do now at least for the next six months), but now everyone is making me feel like I'm some narcissist who is 'using' my brother to get what I want. And it hurts, to hear everyone say I am being 'manipulative' when in reality they know I am mentally/physically disabled and need help.
I know, it really sucks. And the thing is, it really started with my s**ty landlord. The old a**hole wanted me to 'get a job', so they didn't send in their part of the paperwork and that caused us (at the time it was just my mom and I) to have no money for almost 3-4 years. It was h*ll, and to this day that old idiot still wants me to 'get a job' - but they get paid by my brother, so they don't say s**t to me or him anymore.
I really wish I just had someone here to help physically guide me, I have tried saying for years that I need that kind of help but no one understands or even cares enough to give me that. Yeah, I'm an adult. But I'm still mentally disabled, and I wish people didn't just outright think I'm lying 'for attention' or just laugh at me and say I am 'definitely not disabled' simply because I'm still walking and breathing/talking. And now I'm just gonna cry the rest of the night, this all brought up a lot of bad memories for me.
This response was to (( Chris )) on Bell Tree Forums:
I know they exist in my area, but due to my town being so small there is only one. And it's also used for ex criminals. I was in it before, I did have a 'job' for a week at some thrift store and it allowed me to keep my benefits. But my disabilities (and the toxic work environment) had forced me to be pulled out. I kept my benefits for awhile after that, but I've never been able to get disability. And I've tried ever 2-3 years, but every time I re-apply I'm denied.
I know, I feel the exact same. I can do most of the research myself, but I'm a bit slow and I always end up missing/forgetting important details or I end up saying the wrong thing because I misunderstand what's being asked. And every time I try to explain this, people say I am 'not that dumb' because I can obviously do certain things so it is 'not that hard'. It's caused me to just stop trying multiple times, especially since I have had to ask my brother for help in the exact same ways multiple times and he gets angry/upset with me about it.
I know, I feel the exact same. I can do most of the research myself, but I'm a bit slow and I always end up missing/forgetting important details or I end up saying the wrong thing because I misunderstand what's being asked. And every time I try to explain this, people say I am 'not that dumb' because I can obviously do certain things so it is 'not that hard'. It's caused me to just stop trying multiple times, especially since I have had to ask my brother for help in the exact same ways multiple times and he gets angry/upset with me about it.
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) but you heave to get denied fifty times first and play their puppet games, be at deaths doorstep so they don’t have to care for you long, or be homeless (though in a few states if you admit that you can get literally arrested.) It’s the biggest joke a supposedly ‘great’ country can offer people. I’m so ashamed to be American at times it’s not even funny. And don’t get me started what they let their vets (their servicepeople and their families) suffer through after literally offering their bodies, minds, and in many cases lives to serve their country who leaves them high and dry unless you are at the top of the leadership tier, even then it’s a very questionable compensation to what they’ve been through and will continue go through for the rest of their lives. Sad just sad.
